ONE LONG GOODBYE

I really hate long goodbyes!!!  However, when you think about it that is just what life is.......... ONE LONG GOODBYE.  I am just leaving the hospital, I went to visit my Great Uncle who is dying.  He is the last of my grandfather's brothers and the historian of our family.  He has always been that "nosy" uncle that wants to know what is going on with everyone.  Now as an adult and a caring and nurturing person too, I know that is not the case.  He really was concerned about our well being.  He wanted to know that we were on the right track and that we tapped into that "Williams Power".  He would always tell me, you come from hard working successful people and you are just as good.  As I sat there and watched him lay in that bed I realize our family and the world was losing something great because he was a great man.  I felt a bit of disappointment in myself because I lived in Albany but I never visited......... I have been so wrapped up in my life that I neglected to visit as I once did.  Now my kids would never get to experience him as I had as a child and an adult.  Has I was leaving I was talking to his son who happens to be a doctor, and he explained his condition as a doctor would.  However, during the conversation he became a son that was battling with the fact that he was losing his father.  As me and my aunt started to cry, he said "God is a healer, and he will either be healed on this side or the other but he will be healed".  That really touched me because he was right.  I told him that something that I keep in my spirit, "God's will is greater then our desire"!!!  83 years on this earth, doing God's work is a long time.  I thank God for the time that he was with us because he has had a long goodbye...................

FEAR/PHOBIA

Well, I must first give credit to my friend Tracy Williams for suggesting that I write on the topic of Acrophobia. Acrophobia is defined as the extreme irrational fear of heights and is a specific phobia.........  In doing my research, I found that there are hundreds of different phobia's.  Some of the phobia's are just ridiculous to me while others were more understanding.  There were a number of them that stood out in regards to life and our attitudes.  Phobia's are like road blocks in a sense, they can slow you down, delay you, cause you to change direction or bring you to a complete halt.  Just as life is filled with pain and disappointment, it is also filled with love and opportunity but you have to be willing to take a chance.  


Everything that we encounter in life is not going to be pleasant. However, all of our experiences (good and bad) are beneficial.  We have the opportunity to learn from each mistake and/or disappointment that we encounter.  Many people suffer from Acrophobia and don't even know it.    They have been hurt so bad and disappointed so many times that they will not allow themselves to go to the next level......they are afraid of all of the highs that life may have to offer them.  So afraid of heights that they are willing to stay at ground level their entire lives.............. You can not let your past navigate your future because if you do, you are doomed.  Life is just like that hymn, "Jacobs Ladder", "every round goes higher and higher" but how will you know what the next round holds if you are afraid of heights.  All of the good stuff is at the top,  but you have to be brave enough to get it........ So what if you fail or get your heart broke, at least you tired and now you are better prepared for the next round.  You have to be open to the opportunities that await you.  You have no way of knowing what is going to happen until you try.  An honest attempt is so much greater then no effort at all.  So many people miss out on love, happiness,and/or financial stability all because they are afraid of heights.  This indeed is a sad way to live because you become your own worst enemy, hindering yourself from the chance to experience something great.   I would rather fall from the top or on my way to the top then to live at the bottom................  


What is your phobia, what are you allowing to hinder your progress?  Is you fear of heights blocking your love life?  Is it blocking you from making major moves in business?  You have to identify those things that you are afraid of and conquer them.  If you don't, be prepared to spend the rest of your life at ground zero.




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FIVE SHORT YEARS

 Five years ago today, I lost my best friend/sister, Shannette Perkins Elijah.  She was an amazing person and a loving mother.  We had a friendship that began when we were 9 years old and will last eternally.  Our friendship is a great example of many of the things that I speak on all the time.  We didn't always agree on things and there were times when we would argue and/or get mad with one another.  However, we never loved one another any less.  The were periods when we were too busy to talk to each other on a daily basis but when we did it was as if nothing had changed.  There was never a time that she needed me that I didn't come to her aid and vice versa.  We loved one another and no matter what happened we knew that and we always let that guide our friendship.  We have fun together, there was never a dull moment and there was never any jealousy or competition.  We never felt indifferent about friends that we obtained along the way because we knew that nothing would ever come between what she and I shared and even in death, this holds true.  I have other friends whom I love with all my heart and consider my sisters but she remains.  It is so amazing to me that after 5 years, it still hasn't got any easier.  I still miss her and think about her almost every day.  I guess that is because I carry her every where I go in my heart.....  I had to learn to forgive those that I felt hurt and disrespected her because that is what pleases God and if I want to see her again, I must do what pleases Him.  I have stopped mourning her death and started celebrating her life because she lived a full and wonderful life.  She left behind two precious children and it is partially my job to make sure they know what a beautiful, fun-loving person their mother was.  We are all born to die and nothing happens that He doesn't want to happen and God's will is so much greater then our desires.   I think God for placing her in all of our lives and allowing her light to shine upon us.  We are all given a gifts from God, the  first of those is the gift of life but we all have an individual gift as well.  For those of us who are blessed enough to be parents, this is another gift and it gives to the world.  She used her gifts and gave two gifts to the world, her mission was complete..............

Shannette's life and story is a great example of why you should never take the people you love for granted.  Some one that she loved and that I know loved her took her for granted, and they were never able to personally make things right.  Now they are haunted with that on a daily basis.  I know how that feels in a sense because at the time of her death she and I weren't speaking either.  However, there wasn't any wrong doing on either of our part just a difference of opinion, but it is still painful.  I think that a lot of times people do things under the assumption that they will do the right thing later but there are times when later never comes.  Then what?  How do you apologize to someone who is no longer capable of physically accepting it?  How do you find peace and know that all is forgiven?  God can give you peace in any situation but you have to be willing to see your faults and ask for forgiveness.  However, it is much easier than that, Just be mindful of the things that you do.  When you love a person never take them for granted.  Never neglect to tell them how you feel today.  Make sure that they know that you love them in spite of....... and not because of!!!!  If we build strong foundations in our relationship nothing, not even us can tear them down.

Lace "front"

Now here this!!!!  The people at the hair store are not your friends.  They tell you what you want to hear in order to make a sell.  Do you think Mrs. Sue is going to tell you that the hair isn't real and that it is going to tangle? HELL NO!!!!!!!! She has seen you come and go enough to know what type of money you are capable of spending and she intends to get you to spend it.  Say no to some of that shit, starting with those lace front wigs.  I swear if I see one more of those mofo's I am going to kill myself!!!  I mean really, who has a perfect hairline?  Who has a hairline that meets their eyebrows?  And who in the he!! has baby hair matted to their temples?  NOBODY, THAT'S WHO!!!!  Let that ish go!! Yes Beyonce and other celebrities have them but they can afford to purchase the ones that are made from quality hair.  They are also able to pay a stylist to make sure they are on properly and look as they should.  Unlike your a$$ who has to let Tam that works in the hair store put yours on, and that bitch isn't even a cosmetologist's play cousin!!!! Now you out in the street and in the club screaming it's Barbie bit$%es and you are almost right......... Because that hair looks like baby doll hair with wilted lettuce around the edges!!!  GIRL STOP!! When you know better you do better and your a$$ know better than that.  I am not hating on wig and/or weave wearers because I too am a "hair whore".  I just want some of you sister to use discretion......  

LOL!!

I HAVE LEARNED THAT MANY PEOPLE WEAR MASK IN ORDER TO APPEAL TO OTHERS.  THEY DO AND SAY THINGS THAT THEY THINK GET THEM RESPECT FROM THE PEOPLE THEY ARE WEARING THE MASK FOR.  THEY RUN AROUND TRYING TO ESTABLISH AN IMAGE THAT WILL MEET THE APPROVAL OF OTHERS.  HOWEVER, THE TRUTH IS THESE PEOPLE ARE JUST NOT INTERESTED IN THE REAL OR THE FAKE YOU.  THEY PROMOTE YOU DOING AND SAYING THINGS THAT ARE IGNORANT AND DAMAGING.  YOU ARE ACTING OUT THINKING THAT THESE INDIVIDUALS ARE LAUGHING WITH YOU WHEN IN ACTUALITY, THEY ARE LAUGHING AT YOU......... JUST AS YOU ARE WEARING A MASK TO IMPRESS THEM, THEY ARE WEARING A MASK TO DECEIVE YOU.

REAL FRIENDS LOVE YOU IN SPITE OF....... AND NOT BECAUSE OF.  THEY HAVE LEARNED TO LOOK PAST THE FACT THAT YOU ARE LAME, UGLY, MOODY, SELFISH AND OR A NUMBER OF OTHER NEGATIVE TRAITS.  I HAVE FRIENDS THAT ARE DEPENDABLE AND THOSE WHO ARE NOT BUT I LOVE THEM ALL...IN SPITE OF.  YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE TO TRANSFORM FOR THOSE WHO REALLY LOVE YOU.  LOVING A PERSON DOESN'T MEAN YOU THINK THAT THEY ARE PERFECT, IT JUST MEANS THAT YOUR CONNECTION IS GREATER IN SPITE OF ALL THE BULLSHIT. 

ALWAYS REMEMBER TO BEWARE OF PEOPLE WHO FIND HUMOR IN EVERYTHING THAT YOU DO.  THOSE WHO ARE ALWAYS ENCOURAGING YOU TO DO THE THINGS THAT YOU KNOW ARE WRONG.  A REAL FRIEND DOESN'T WANT YOU TO EMBARRASS YOURSELF BECAUSE THEY ARE HURT AND AFFECTED BY YOUR ACTIONS DUE TO YOUR CONNECTION.  THE NEXT TIME YOU ARE DOING SOMETHING THAT YOU KNOW IS WRONG, TURN AROUND AND LOOK AT THE PEOPLE THAT ARE LAUGHING.............. THEN LOOK AT THE PEOPLE THAT ARE TRYING TO STOP YOU.  THE PEOPLE THAT ARE LAUGHING OUT LOUD ARE THE PEOPLE THAT YOU HAVE TO WEAR THE MASK FOR AND THEY ARE NOT YOUR TRUE FRIENDS.

ALLOW ME TO INTRODUCE MYSELF!

Hello friends, I wanted to take this time to introduce myself  to you.  My name is Maui but feel free to refer to me as Ms. B.  I am a very honest and fun loving person.  My intention here is to allow you access to my world and give you my personal point of view about all areas of life(and I do mean all).  By no means do I expect for you all to agree with me and I welcome your comments.  I know that some of the things I say will offend however, I can not and will not apologize for being me.............