Protect your dreams.....

I have learned that you can't expect others to always be supportive and encouraging of your dreams and the efforts you make.  During my journey, I have met a number of  so called "positive people" who tried to down play, destroy and discourage my dream.  Not because they don't see my potential, but because they did see it!!!!!!!  AND IT SCARES THEM......It is historically proven that people make efforts destroy things that they fear and disagree with.  Slavery and the Holocaust are two example of this.  Both the Jews and the Africans were admired for their strength, abilities and intelligence and for this reason, they were both victimized and oppressed.............  September 11, 2001 is another example of how people will try to destroy what they disagree with.  The greatest example ever, is our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.....  And I could easily go on and on......................  However, I just want you to know that you have to be mindful of who you allow to see your vision.

You should always handle your dreams with care!!!  Never share them with those who you aren't sure are in full support of you and your dream.  Just as the Bible says that that there is power in touching and agreeing, there is power in touching and disagreeing.  You don't want to find your dreams in the hand of someone who is not in support of it because they will put forth as much effort as possible to destroy it.  I know a lot of people who are trying to obtain things in their lives and every time they are close to the mountain top....................  they find themselves back at ground zero.  Why?? Because they have powers working against them.  Sometime it is best to work in silence, execute your plan and display your finished project.  This is not being shady or wrong, this is just protecting your investment(dream).  I know that what God has for me is for me.  However, the devil is busy and he may not be able to destroy God's plans, he will try.  So remember to guard your dream with your life because,“Dreams are like stars...you may never touch them, but if you follow them they will lead you to your destiny.”(unknown)

SEASONS

For everything that God created there is a season.  Throughout the course of our lives, we experience different seasons.  It is extremely important that you pay attention to God for instruction because you don't want to plant good seeds on barren land.  We must learn that just because God has promised us a fruitful harvest doesn't mean we will be able to pick our fruit when we want to.  God's promise is not like that of man, it is sure and definite.  It is not temporary and filled with all types of clauses.  They only thing God wants from us is honor, to honor him in the manner that he deserves by living a certain type of life.  In order for us to have the things that we desire, we have to know what season we are in................................

WINTER is the toughest season because the cold puts everything on halt(frozen).  This is the time you have to trust God more then ever because winter is so unpredictable.  As we all know, sometimes winter weather is short lived and it begins to thaw soon and sometimes winter conditions last well into spring.  There are even times when you think that winter is over because you have a few sunny days and then.......................  in comes another cold front.  Anything that is planted in winter, will never grow during this season because the weather is too cold.  Winter is the season that normally test the faith of many of us because if we have a long winter, we tend to question God.

SPRING is the beautiful season in which every thing grows.  This is the season when our lives have the most balance.  There is enough rain and sunshine, everything flourishes .   This is the time when we can reap all of the harvest that God has promised.  We can be fruitful and multiply!!!!! However, we have to be sure not to pick your fruit soon or too late, timing is everything!!

SUMMER is kind of tricky, because it is the season in which you experience the most light but there are also a lot of storms.  Many times the summer harvest depends on the how bad the storms are.  It is when we are able to see how strong the seeds you planted are.  If they are strong enough, they can weather the storm and if not............................. (you get the picture)

FALL is when the winds of change begin to blow.  It is what prepares us for winter.  Many times the change that you encounter during fall brings on an early winter.  We tend to want to hold on to summer during the fall because it is so hard to embrace change.  We have become accustom to the warmth.....................  However, we need to trust God and know that change is good.

Pay attention to God, be aware of the season that you are in.  Embrace the things that God has for you both good and bad because in the end, it will all be for the good.  Are seeds that you want to sow but if you want to reap the harvest of the sweetest fruit, make sure it is planted in the right season.

BLACK BROTHER.......

THE BLACK MAN HAS BEEN TORN DOWN THROUGHOUT HISTORY.  THE REACTIONS OF ALL THIS PAIN AND SUFFERING ARE THE THINGS THAT WE EXPERIENCE FROM THEM NOW.    THESE THINGS ARE SO MUCH BIGGER THEN THE HERE AND NOW, THIS IS A GENERATIONAL CURSE THAT ARE MEN ARE WRAPPED UP IN.  ONLY GOD AND STRENGTH CAN BRING THEM OUT.  IT ALSO DOESN'T HELP THAT MANY WOMEN DESTROY GOOD MEN AND ME WHO PUT FORTH AN HONEST EFFORT.  MEN DEAL WITH THE SAME ISSUES THAT WE DO, JUST IN A DIFFERENT MANNER.  JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT EMOTIONAL AND RUNNING AROUND CRYING AND ACTING BIPOLAR DOESN'T MEAN THEY AREN'T HURTING.  SOCIETY HAS MADE WOMEN FEEL THAT THESE MEN THAT CAME FROM KINGS ARE NO LONGER HEIRS TO THE THRONE.  SOCIETY PAINTS A PICTURE THAT IS LESS APPEALING THEN THE TRUTH ABOUT THE BLACK MAN AND THE YEARS OF HARDSHIP THEY HAVE HAD TO ENDURE.  AT SOME POINT WE ARE GOING TO HAVE TO LEARN TO EMBRACE OUR BROTHERS AND GIVE THEM SAME BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT THAT WE WANT AND DESERVE.

HAVE YOU EVER THOUGHT ABOUT THE HISTORY OF OUR BROTHERS?  HAVE YOU EVER IMAGINED THE PAIN THAT IS ASSOCIATED WITH BEING A BLACK MAN?  WHAT IF YOU WERE A KING WITH MANY WIVES AND CHILDREN, HIGHLY RESPECTED, STRONG AND POWERFUL..... THEN ALL OF A SUDDEN THAT CHANGED.  WHAT IF YOU WENT FROM BEING AND HAVING EVERYTHING YOU COULD IMAGINE TO BEING PROPERTY AND BEING TREATED LIKE THE LOWEST FORM OF LIFE.  CAN YOU IMAGINE WATCHING YOUR WIVE, MOTHER AND/OR DAUGHTER RAPED AND BEAT AND NOT BEING ABOUT TO DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT?  WELL THIS IS ONE SMALL PART OF THE PAINFUL EXISTENCE OF THE BLACK MAN.  BEING BROKE DOWN AND REDUCED TO NOTHING WHEN YOU ONCE FELT AS THOUGH YOU HAD EVERYTHING.  THIS WAS THE BEGINNING OF THE DECLINE OF THE BLACK MAN.  THESE THINGS SET THE STAGE FOR MANY OF THINGS TO COME.  FORCED TO BE FATHERS TO CHILDREN THAT YOU KNOW BELONGED TO THE MASTER.  NOT BEING ALLOWED TO ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR FAMILY AND BE THE HUSBAND AND FATHER THAT GOD CREATED YOU TO BE.  EVEN AFTER SLAVERY, ALL THE WAY TILL NOW BLACK MEN ARE STILL TREATED UNFAIRLY AND OPPRESSED BY SOCIETY.  DENIED RIGHTS AND THE ABILITY TO CARE FOR THEIR FAMILY BECAUSE OF THE COLOR OF THEIR SKIN.  TREATED UNFAIRLY AND DISCRIMINATED AGAINST IN THE WORK PLACE BECAUSE A UNEDUCATED WHITE MAN IS BETTER THEN TEN BLACK MEN WITH DEGREES.  YOUNG BOYS AND MEN PLACED IN JAIL AND THEN RELEASED TO SOCIETY WITH NO RESOURCES.  PUT IN SITUATIONS WHERE THEY FEEL OBLIGATED TO DO ILLEGAL THINGS SIMPLY BECAUSE THEY WANT TO PROVIDE FOR YOUR FAMILY.  THESE ARE THE STORIES OF SO MANY BLACK MEN.    NOW PLEASE DON'T GET ME WRONG, MEN ARE NOT INNOCENT BY ANY MEANS BUT WHAT I AM SAYING IS THERE ARE FACTORS THAT CONTRIBUTE TO MANY OF THE NEGATIVE PRESS BLACK MEN GET.  IN 2011 WE ARE STILL DEALING WITH SOME OF THE SAME ISSUES.  OUR COUNTRY MADE HISTORY WITH THE ELECTION OF THE FIRST AFRICAN AMERICAN PRESIDENT.  HOWEVER, HE IS HISTORICALLY THE MOST DISRESPECTED PRESIDENT TOO..... WHY, BECAUSE HE IS BLACK!!!  THERE HAVE BEEN OTHER LESS CAPABLE PRESIDENTS THAT DIDN'T GET THE TREATMENT THAT PRESIDENT OBAMA RECEIVES.  THIS IS PROOF THAT THERE IS A LACK OF RESPECT FOR THE BLACK MAN.   

WOMEN, WE ARE NO BETTER!!! A LOT OF US TEAR BLACK MEN DOWN INSTEAD OF BUILDING THEM UP.  WE FALL IN LINE WITH WHAT SOCIETY WANTS US TO DO.  HOWEVER, WHEN YOU TEAR DOWN THE BLACK MAN, YOU ARE ALSO TEARING DOWN THE AFRICAN AMERICAN FAMILY UNIT.  IT IS TIME FOR US TO GET IT RIGHT.  OUR CHILDREN NEED THEIR FATHERS JUST AS MUCH AS THEY NEED THEIR MOTHERS.  MANY TIMES WOMEN SERVE AS A CRUTCH FOR MEN AND THIS IS NOT AT ALL WHAT I AM SUGGESTING.  IT IS GOOD TO BE SUPPORTIVE BUT YOU CAN'T TAKE CONTROL AND TAKE ON THE ROLE OF THE MAN.  MEN BY NATURE ARE SUPPOSED TO BE STRONG, GOD WANTED THEM TO BE THE HEAD OF THE FAMILY.  HOWEVER, MANY TIMES FOR WHATEVER REASON THEY AREN'T.  SOME WOMEN TAKE CARE OF MEN THEY ALLOW THEM TO BE LAZY.  YOU SHOULD BE MOTIVATING HIM TO TAP INTO HIS GREATNESS AND PUSHING HIM TO CLIMB MOUNTAINS AND TEAR DOWN WALLS.  EVEN IF YOU ARE UNABLE TO MAINTAIN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN, NEVER STOP HIM FROM BEING A FATHER TO HIS CHILDREN IN ANY CAPACITY.  HE MAY BE A HORRIBLE BOYFRIEND BUT A GREAT FATHER.  YOU CAN'T MAKE YOUR CHILDREN SUFFER FOR THE PAIN THAT HE MAY HAVE CAUSED YOU.  CHILDREN LOVE THEIR PARENTS REGARDLESS TO THEIR FLAWS.....  I KNOW THAT MANY TIME WE FEEL THAT THE FATHER HAS NO RIGHT TO THE CHILDREN IF THEY AREN'T PROVIDING FOR THEM FINANCIALLY BUT THIS HURTS THE CHILD MORE THEN ANYTHING.  SOME BATTLES AREN'T YOURS, THEY ARE THE LORD'S SO LET HIM HANDLE IT..........  WOMEN WE HAVE TO GET IT TOGETHER AND HELP OUR BROTHERS GET IT RIGHT.  SO THAT OUR SONS CAN BREAK THE GENERATION CURSE A WALK IN THE GREATNESS OF THE KINGS THAT CAME BEFORE THEM..........

BAG LADY

It is so important that woman learn not to be bag ladies.  Many of us tend to carry the baggage of our men, family and friends.  When we aren't carrying that baggage, we are carrying the baggage of the past. It doesn't matter what type of woman you are or from what social status you hail............... WE HAVE ALL HAD SOME SORT OF BAGGAGE!!!!  Many woman who consider themselves "classy and/or high dollar" tend to think that their struggle is different from the common woman.  However, it is not!!! BAGGAGE IS BAGGAGE WHETHER IT IS IN A GUCCI BAG OR A PAPER BAG.... Baggage will do one of two things or both.  It will either SLOW YOU DOWN OR WEIGH YOU DOWN!!!

We all know that God created women to be nurtures and we are very emotional as well.  This is why many times we find ourselves fighting battles that are not ours, especially with the men in our lives.  Often men use the caring nature of some women to their advantage.  They latch on to women that are "good" and that will be good to them.  Men come with baggage, drama and an assortment of issues just like woman.  Many times they enter into relationships or situations with women knowing that their affairs are in total disarray.  And because we (woman) are such nurturing creatures, we put it in our bag......... All that baby mama drama, the woos of not being able to find a job, not having the money needed for certain things, family issues, friend issues, illegal activities............................. AND THE LIST GOES ON AND ON!!!!  We have to learn when to say when.  It is one thing to support your man but it is another to carry all of his burdens. Be mindful about loading your bag up with his shit because you may get stuck with it all.  I mean honestly what can you expect from a man that enters into a relationship bags and bags of bullshit?

I myself and one of those women that carries a lot of other peoples baggage.  I am a very caring and concerned person when it comes to my loved ones.  Many times I get entangled in their lives and their problems.  I am working very hard to bring this to a minimum because it is damaging.  I have lost connections with a few key people because of this.  It isn't that I am nosy or controlling but I want the best for them.  I just want to help my loved ones.  I want them to be as happy as I am if not happier.  However, I have learned that it isn't my job nor am I capable of doing this. I have learned that you have to let people find their own peace in whatever situation they are in.  You can not create happiness for those that you love.........  Happiness comes with the security and comfort that each individual finds with themselves.   People evolve in their own time, not the time that we want them to.  Hell, If you spend too much time worrying about what they have going on, you will neglect your star player................. You!!!  So now when people come to me with issues, I listen and give advice but I don't get all entangled in it.........  As a friend my job is to be there for them no matter what, not to take over the situation and solve the problem.  

Often it is hard for woman to be happy because of the baggage that they carry from the past.  You can not hold an individual accountable for the actions of another.  You have to learn from each experience that you have and move on when it is time.  This holds true for both friendships and relationships.  I know that I have opted out of being friends with co-worker and other females for years.  For no reason other than the fact that I have had bad experiences with a great number of woman.  Now that I think about it, that is baggage from my past too.  The same thing holds true for relationships...... You can not enter into a relationship placing your new man under the same umbrella that your old men are under.  If you want to find true happiness, you have to let go of your past.  Your past can and will haunt you if you allow it to.  All of that baggage will keep you from being happy with yourself.  All that baggage will make you unlovable.  All of that baggage will cost you friends and family.  Most of all, I will take away your peace.

WOMAN WE ARE POWERFUL BEINGS AND IT IS IMPORTANT THAT WE ACT AS SUCH.  NOTHING AND NO ONE SHOULD HAVE THE POWER TO SLOW US DOWN AND/ OR HOLD US DOWN.  IF IT IS SOMEONE ELSE'S TRASH, IT WILL NEVER BE YOUR TREASURE!!!  WHETHER IT IS A GUCCI BAG OR A PAPER BAG, EMPTY THAT SHIT...... YOUR BACK WILL THANK YOU!!